4 Tips to build your child’s independence

Follow these helpful tips to help your little one become more independent each day.

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ALLOW YOUR LITTLE ONES TO MAKE MISTAKES

It is natural to want to shelter our children and make everything easier for them. But how will they learn how to thrive if they never make mistakes? “Discuss and normalise the fact that people make mistakes and that learning from them is what is most important,” says Dr Stephanie Irby Coard, an associate professor of human development and family studies at the University of North Carolina.  

Did your little one forget their raincoat at school? Or did they get bad marks on a test because they neglected to study until the last minute? Let your kids learn from their mishaps – it will help them thrive later in life. Next time they fail at something, let them know it is okay and help them find a solution. 

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CELEBRATE YOUR CHILD’S ACHIEVEMENTS

Did your little one ace that test? Perform their little hearts out in the school musical? Let them know! Praising your little ones for what they did well, builds their self-esteem and confidence. According to The Child Development Institute, the confidence they gain from being recognised for their hard work will empower them to tackle new challenges independently. 

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GIVE THEM (AGE-APPROPRIATE) TASKS

Identify tasks around the house (and for themselves) they can take on. Small to-dos around the house will give them a sense of responsibility. Encourage them to make their own beds, brush their own teeth, and, if you dare, let them get ready for school and play dates by themselves (hello, Spiderman costume for every occasion). 

According to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, children who have chores are more responsible, may have better self-esteem and may be able to deal better with challenges like frustration and adversity. The skills they learn will enable them to be more successful in school, work and relationships. 

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FOLLOW THEIR LEAD

Pay attention to your kids’ interests. If you follow your little one’s lead, you’ll see what they like and what they gravitate towards. “[This is how] humans learn best about what they are most interested in,” explains family psychotherapist Debbie Carter. They can grow better independently, and by noticing what they like and where they excel, you can give them the needed support.   

Also read: Why reading is important for children 

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