How to ‘speak’ the 5 love languages at work 

1 Words of affirmation  

People who speak this love language thrive on public recognition, genuine praise and constructive feedback. According to SimplyPsychology.com, words of affirmation in the workplace can be a powerful way to show appreciation and recognition. To do it effectively, focus on the person’s specific actions or achievements, such as a great presentation or a project well done.  

Be direct and person-centered in your praise, avoiding generic compliments. Timeliness is also key, so try to offer your words of affirmation soon after the event or achievement. This can be done in person, via email, messaging or even a handwritten note — the format doesn’t matter as much as the sincerity and specificity behind the words.  

By following these tips, you can show your colleagues that you value and appreciate their hard work, and help build a more positive and supportive work environment.  

2 Acts of service  

People who speak this love language tend to appreciate mentorship, stepping in to help and collaborative support.  

When colleagues show their support by lending a helping hand, offering guidance or taking on tasks to ease their workload, it speaks volumes to those who value acts of service. This can be as simple as helping a team member meet a tight deadline, buying a cup of coffee for them when they’re super busy, giving feedback on a project, or even running a meeting so they can take a break. 

These gestures demonstrate that their colleagues or managers are invested in their success and well-being, making them thrive and deliver quality work. It has been shown that organisations that prioritise teamwork, mentorship and support create an environment where acts of service are valued and encouraged, leading to stronger relationships and a more cohesive team.  

3 Receiving gifts  

If you have a co-worker who loves giving little gifts, they most probably also love receiving them. People who speak this love language go crazy for professional development opportunities, thoughtful gestures and even ‘symbolic’ rewards that show they’re seen and valued. 

In the workplace, this might mean opportunities for additional training, attending conferences or mentorship opportunities. These gifts can be tangible, like a new book or a course, or intangible, like access to exclusive networking events or high-profile projects. Thoughtful gestures, such as a personalised note or small celebration, also go a long way.  

According to Medium.com, by acknowledging and rewarding workers in meaningful ways, organisations can tap into the motivational power of gifts and foster a sense of loyalty and engagement.  

4 Quality time  

People who speak this love language crave one-on-one check-ins, team-building activities and undivided attention in meetings. For these individuals, spending quality time with both their colleagues and leaders is essential for building trust, fostering collaboration and driving results.  

One-on-one check-ins provide an opportunity for meaningful conversations, goal-setting and feedback, helping to create a sense of connection and understanding. In meetings, giving someone your undivided attention can be a powerful way to show you value their input and ideas.  

Team-building activities, office social events and volunteering opportunities can also help to strengthen bonds and promote a sense of camaraderie.  

Research shows that spending meaningful time with colleagues and leaders can boost employee engagement, foster a sense of community and drive better outcomes.  

5 Physical touch  

While this may seem like a love language that’s somewhat tricky to apply in a professional setting, it’s actually more about creating a comfortable and safe work environment. People whose love language is physical touch appreciate a workplace that prioritises well-being, ergonomics (good seating) and relaxation.  

According to Simplypsychology.com, incorporating physical touch in the workplace can be as simple as offering a handshake during greetings or a hug goodbye. Other forms of touch, such as a gentle pat on the upper arm or back, can also be welcome, especially for colleagues who’ve had a tough day. And a high-five is a great way to celebrate a colleague’s accomplishment.  

It’s crucial to prioritise consent and comfort. Before initiating physical touch, check in with your colleague — “Can I give you a hug?” — to ensure they’re comfortable with it. Be mindful of body language and withdraw if you notice any signs of unease or discomfort.  

Workplace Tips  

–Ask team members how they prefer to receive feedback and recognition. Offer choices.  

–Observe how they respond to different types of recognition to understand what motivates them.  

–Adapt your approach to each team member’s unique love language.  

–Be genuine in your recognition and appreciation to build trust and credibility.  

–Timely recognition boosts morale and motivation.  

–Make it personal to show you’ve taken the time to think about each team member. 

In addition to the benefits already mentioned, at the end of the day, understanding love languages fosters increased job satisfaction, reduces stress and improves overall health..

Words: Emma Mbuthuma 

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