YOUR GUIDE TO BEING SINGLE AND HAPPY


The single life is unchartered territory for many and that can be quite terrifying and depressing. Challenge yourself to reframe your mind to take a different approach to being single. 



Society and often our cultures put a strong emphasis on being part of a couple and that we all need companionship. The assumption is that it’s impossible to be happy without a partner, single life is looked down upon and being in a romantic relationship and marriage is superior to being alone.

With so many ‘how to’ advice articles on building and maintaining relationships, it may seem like you can’t enjoy life without sharing it with a significant other. That’s not true! It requires some shifts and changes in your way of thinking and willingness to get out of your comfort zone. It’s an opportunity to learn ways to love your own company and enjoy being single.

Live your best life; here are 15 ways to enjoy the single life.

TIME TO LEARN MORE ABOUT YOU
How well do you know yourself? We sometimes spend so much time in the company of others that we feel a sense of belonging only when surrounded by people. Being single is a phase where it is sometimes compulsory to be on your own. Take this time to dig deep into your emotions, do some introspection and really get to understand who you are. Spending time alone is a great tool for personal growth as it allows you to discover new layers about yourself and perhaps things you have forgotten you enjoy.

BE SPONTANEOUS
This time you’re doing everything solo, which means you don’t need to consult anyone about any decisions you want to make. Should you wish to get a pet for instance, the decision is entirely up to you. Whatever move you want to make, you have the freedom of deciding which way to go and when. You should enjoy these times because now only your feelings matter.

TAKE UP A NEW HOBBY
There might be something you’ve been meaning to take up, like a hobby you’re interested in or a passion you’ve always wanted to follow. This is a great opportunity to now explore those ideas and see what else you enjoy doing!

LEARN TO ENJOY YOUR ALONE TIME
While being single can be great, it can be hard sometimes to be alone with your thoughts so often. Learning how to love being alone is important because finding happiness in solitude allows you to be comfortable in most situations. It proves that you’re independent and you don’t need to rely on someone else to fill a void or be happy.



GET OUT THERE
Now is the time to fully explore your horizons in the dating scene. Get out there, mingle, meet new friends and visits spots you have never thought of visiting before.

WHEN YOU FEEL LONELY, GIVE BACK TO OTHERS
You might feel down on yourself sometimes, or feel lonely because you haven’t been on a date for some time. Why not try giving back by volunteering at a homeless shelter, charity organisation or centre for abused women and children? It always feels good to help others and the more you help others the better you’ll feel about yourself. This will also help you to not focus on what ‘you don’t have’, but rather be appreciative of your blessings.



KEEP BUSY WITH THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY
Do you like reading? Join a book club. If you enjoy dancing, try dancing lessons. If you like running perhaps join a running club in your local area. The more you keep busy, the less you’ll focus on the negatives of being single, or rather what you perceive as being the negatives. By keeping busy and having fun, this opens up your social connections and gives way to new friendships and possible relationships.

TAKE TIME TO REFLECT
Self-reflection is key to having a healthy state of mind. We all get preoccupied with work and personal matters that sometimes we might miss and overlook decisions that we have made in the past. Now is your chance to relook some of the choices you’ve made and ask yourself some difficult questions. Dig deep and think about if you’re happy about those choices, would you change anything and how can you improve on that? Remember to not be so hard on yourself though, remain kind to yourself. These moments are important because they guide you on your future decisions.

HAVE HIGH STANDARDS
Taking time to ourselves is an important part of discovering what type of person our ideal match is, or what kind of relationship we can happily commit to. By looking out for and experimenting with new things, you’ll begin to find out what works for you and what doesn't. Learning more about your preferences and finding out what makes you tick is crucial in forming balanced and healthy relationships in the future. Pick and choose according to your taste, don’t just settle for anybody to avoid being single.



SPEND TIME WITH THOSE WHO MATTER THE MOST
Relationships come and go, but friends and family are around for much, much longer. You will realise once you learn the pleasures of being single that you have much more time for family. Especially when it comes to older relatives, time spent with them truly is precious. Make the most of your single time by reconnecting with family members and friends in your life you may have been neglecting.



REVAMP YOUR LIVING SPACE
Coming home to a loving and peaceful living space is a wonderful feeling. Your sanctuary should be rid of all clutter and try to dispose of all bad memories of past relationships. Create a space that is cheerful and gives you the feeling of warmth and safety. Revamping your space helps you to look forward to going home and staying home alone – it's for you by you!

TRAVEL
Travelling alone can be an incredibly rewarding experience. Go someplace you’ve never been, either by yourself or with a bunch of friends or relatives. Most reputable travel agencies offer a host of tours for singletons. It’s amazing how much fun you can have. Just let your hair down, live in the moment, get packing and go on an adventure! You never know what might be in store for you out there.



SPOIL YOURSELF
Some retail therapy always helps. Spoiling yourself with a lovely dress or shoes, a new hairstyle or even a manicure can lift your spirits. Make time just to do something for yourself, which will make you feel pampered. This will help you to not be codependent on your future partner for happiness. Create your own joy.

BE SINGLE!
Be single and enjoy the present moment. Let love come to you! Don’t seek out a companion and jump into every opportunity that presents itself. Love will find you when the timing is right and when it does you’ll be ready for it. Give yourself ample space to enjoy your time alone, so that when you meet someone new, you are in a good place emotionally.

LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE LOVED
Love yourself more. Treat yourself with kindness and respect. If you want a quality relationship with a person who will treat you well, you need to start doing it yourself.


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