At what stage does sharing become too much? Yes, you may be in love and want the rest of the world to know, but where do you draw the line at what is appropriate to share and what should be kept between you and your partner only?
When people know what is happening in your relationship every step off the way, it may be time to take a step back from sharing so much on social media and rather just enjoy the alone time between you and your partner. We take a look at the things you should never post about your relationship on social media.
PERSONAL DETAILS
You may think that it is cute that your partner still sleeps with their teddy bear from their childhood, but do they want everyone knowing this fact about their personal life? The rule of thumb is to always check with your partner if they are okay with the personal content you may be posting. If they say no, honour their decision and simply enjoy those sweet details between only the two of you.
UNAPPROVED PHOTOS
People are often picky about what they consider “unflattering” when it comes to images of themselves. A pout may be the most adorable pose for you, but your partner on the other hand may consider it utterly embarrassing. Again, asking before posting will never get you into trouble.
SOPPY STUFF
We get it. You love bae. But does the world really want to know your pet names for each other, even if it is bokboks or ubabes? There are things you share with your partner that aren’t meant to be shared with anyone else. So, while it might seem special to upload a photo of your man just waking up, you’re actually allowing all these people a glimpse into a private moment. Posting this type of information minimizes the specialness of your relationship and the intimate connection between the two of you.
LOVER'S QUARREL
Simply put, when you make your fight public, you’re undermining your ability to make up effectively. Your friends and family will undoubtedly take your side and you’ve also opened the door for people to give their two cents about your relationship. They might not be so happy about your ‘perfect’ beau a week after you called them a ‘horrible narcissist’. Keep that stuff private. Once you make up, you’ll be glad you didn’t go public with your beef.
MEAN JOKES
Social media and memes are famously bad at transmitting a “tone”. Tone is the only difference between a flirtatious jab among lovers and a cruel jibe at your loved one’s expense. Without the context that you share as a couple, people aren’t going to see the humour, they’ll just see disrespect.
BRAGGING
If your partner can afford diamonds and designer handbags, that’s great. However, class resentment is real and showing off on social media is not going to do you any favours. Yes, we all want the world to see our fancy items and be happy for us but not everyone is going to feel that way. It is important to understand that not everyone, including your friends may have the same luxuries you have and that’s okay but just be mindful of their feelings as well. Flashing your wealth on social media not only attracts negative energy from friends, but also sets you up as a target for scammers that may be on your friends list.
THOSE VAGUE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE STATUSES
Most of us have experienced or may have seen, “I still can’t believe some people can be so selfish” comments flying around social media. As tempting as it may be to tell all your social media friends about your fight with your partner, or even post about your fight through a cryptic message, your friends are bound to read between the lines and only make the situation that much worse with everyone weighing in with their opinions. The issue that occurred between you and your partner needs to be resolved by you and your partner. Not between you, social media friends and your partner. Deal with your problems privately and not publicly.
LOOKING FOR VALIDATION
Are you happy with your partner? If so, it doesn’t matter how many likes your man crush Monday pic gets. We’ve grown accustomed to taking our friend’s likes and comments as accurate measures of value. Eventually you end up in a position where you feel like you have to keep up a facade until people accept or love your relationship. On the other hand, you could end up idealizing social media’s perception of your relationship, and inevitably, you will continuously be trying to live up to this perfect relationship that doesn’t exist.
THE IN-LAWS
It doesn’t matter if your nosy mother-in-law isn’t on your friends list. Social media posts are slippery little things. Even when deleted, once it’s out there, it’s out there. Someone may have a screenshot of it to this day. No privacy setting in the world can prevent your nasty posts from finding the people they’re written about. If that person is your mother-in-law, you’re in for a lifetime of awkward family Christmases. What's more, posting details of your relationships are a sign of poor personal boundaries. With more potential and current employers monitoring social media, that information tells them that you are willing to post personal information about them as well. Not a good look.
PERSONAL DETAILS
You may think that it is cute that your partner still sleeps with their teddy bear from their childhood, but do they want everyone knowing this fact about their personal life? The rule of thumb is to always check with your partner if they are okay with the personal content you may be posting. If they say no, honour their decision and simply enjoy those sweet details between only the two of you.
UNAPPROVED PHOTOS
People are often picky about what they consider “unflattering” when it comes to images of themselves. A pout may be the most adorable pose for you, but your partner on the other hand may consider it utterly embarrassing. Again, asking before posting will never get you into trouble.
SOPPY STUFF
We get it. You love bae. But does the world really want to know your pet names for each other, even if it is bokboks or ubabes? There are things you share with your partner that aren’t meant to be shared with anyone else. So, while it might seem special to upload a photo of your man just waking up, you’re actually allowing all these people a glimpse into a private moment. Posting this type of information minimizes the specialness of your relationship and the intimate connection between the two of you.
LOVER'S QUARREL
Simply put, when you make your fight public, you’re undermining your ability to make up effectively. Your friends and family will undoubtedly take your side and you’ve also opened the door for people to give their two cents about your relationship. They might not be so happy about your ‘perfect’ beau a week after you called them a ‘horrible narcissist’. Keep that stuff private. Once you make up, you’ll be glad you didn’t go public with your beef.
MEAN JOKES
Social media and memes are famously bad at transmitting a “tone”. Tone is the only difference between a flirtatious jab among lovers and a cruel jibe at your loved one’s expense. Without the context that you share as a couple, people aren’t going to see the humour, they’ll just see disrespect.
BRAGGING
If your partner can afford diamonds and designer handbags, that’s great. However, class resentment is real and showing off on social media is not going to do you any favours. Yes, we all want the world to see our fancy items and be happy for us but not everyone is going to feel that way. It is important to understand that not everyone, including your friends may have the same luxuries you have and that’s okay but just be mindful of their feelings as well. Flashing your wealth on social media not only attracts negative energy from friends, but also sets you up as a target for scammers that may be on your friends list.
THOSE VAGUE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE STATUSES
Most of us have experienced or may have seen, “I still can’t believe some people can be so selfish” comments flying around social media. As tempting as it may be to tell all your social media friends about your fight with your partner, or even post about your fight through a cryptic message, your friends are bound to read between the lines and only make the situation that much worse with everyone weighing in with their opinions. The issue that occurred between you and your partner needs to be resolved by you and your partner. Not between you, social media friends and your partner. Deal with your problems privately and not publicly.
LOOKING FOR VALIDATION
Are you happy with your partner? If so, it doesn’t matter how many likes your man crush Monday pic gets. We’ve grown accustomed to taking our friend’s likes and comments as accurate measures of value. Eventually you end up in a position where you feel like you have to keep up a facade until people accept or love your relationship. On the other hand, you could end up idealizing social media’s perception of your relationship, and inevitably, you will continuously be trying to live up to this perfect relationship that doesn’t exist.
THE IN-LAWS
It doesn’t matter if your nosy mother-in-law isn’t on your friends list. Social media posts are slippery little things. Even when deleted, once it’s out there, it’s out there. Someone may have a screenshot of it to this day. No privacy setting in the world can prevent your nasty posts from finding the people they’re written about. If that person is your mother-in-law, you’re in for a lifetime of awkward family Christmases. What's more, posting details of your relationships are a sign of poor personal boundaries. With more potential and current employers monitoring social media, that information tells them that you are willing to post personal information about them as well. Not a good look.
WHAT HAPPENS BETWEEN THE SHEETS
First of all, gross. We’re not saying you shouldn’t engage in a little long-distance flirtation with your significant other. If that’s your thing though, keep it on the texts. Whatever you do, do not post anything publicly without the full consent of your partner, or you could be putting your relationship in jeopardy. Remember this sensitive and embarrassing information is not just about you. Revealing things about your partner they may not want shared with the public will definitely damage the trust between you.
SMOOCHING SELFIES
If you’re not an actor in the latest rom-com, nobody wants to see you kissing. Trust us, nobody. Firstly, kissing selfies seem a bit uh, suggestive. How is that going to make your parents feel? Secondly, what are you trying to prove? You won’t gain any points among the lonely hearts in your friend group. People who are having a hard time finding love just about gag when they see your make out session on their feed. Just don’t do it.
THE INSIDE SCOOP ON YOUR BREAKUP
Going through a breakup can make you want to do some crazy stuff. Keep your restraint, and resist airing your dirty laundry on social media. Once it’s online, sides will be formed, and it will get a whole lot nastier. A peaceful break up between you and your partner will definitely aid in the healing of a broken heart. Besides, fighting on social media makes you look petty. We’re in 2020 people!
12 THINGS THAT HAPPY COUPLES DON’T SHARE ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Reviewed by Michelle Pienaar
on
November 16, 2020
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Reviewed by Michelle Pienaar
on
November 16, 2020
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