HOW TO MANAGE A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Let’s be real – long-distance relationships are hard, but they can work. Here's how you can make your love go the distance when you are kilometres apart.

SET SOME GROUND RULES
Setting rules might seem like a schlep, but it can save your relationship. Communicate clearly and ensure there are no blurred lines about what you expect from each other. Talk honestly and openly about your boundaries, goals and how often you'll see each other. And when doing so, try to put yourself in your partner's shoes. Doing something that makes the other person uncomfortable will only catch up with you in the future.

DO DAILY CHECK-INS
Our phones are an extension of our hands at this point. And with so many video-calling apps, it is easy to stay connected. We’re not saying talk on the phone 24/7 (who has the time?), but schedule time for daily chats. Check-ins will make you feel like you are a big part of each other’s lives. Hearing your long-distance S.O.’s voice is always something to look forward to after the hustle and bustle of your busy day.

PLAN FOR THE NEXT TIME YOU’RE TOGETHER
As tempting as it is to spend as much time indoors when you finally see each other, use this time to create new memories too. Plan fun adventures when you visit each other so that you have something to look forward to when the days apart get lonely. Making plans can also prove your commitment to each other. According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, research has found that couples who make plans are more committed to one another and have longer-lasting relationships.

GET CREATIVE WITH VIRTUAL DATES
Who says you can’t still have fun when you’re apart? Make an evening out of it and binge your favourite show or watch a new movie together – there are so many streaming services with endless options for you to enjoy. You could have online game-nights and celebrate relationship milestones with virtual ‘dinner dates’. The idea is to be as creative as possible and have fun!

DO THINGS ON YOUR OWN
Don't sulk all day about the pits of your long-distance love affair. Clinical psychologist Jocelyn Charnas explains that you are more likely to feel lonely and isolated if you put all your energy into having a long-distance partner. Go out and do fun things that don't involve your significant other – having your independence is crucial in any relationship. Sign up for that half-marathon (or the more realistic 10 km) or take those cooking classes you’ve been dying to try out. Enriching your own life will only make you a better partner at the end of the day.